They say communication is the most important thing in a relationship. Although we are taught to communicate from an early age, many of us are not well-equipped with the right communication skills to have the healthiest relationship.
Perhaps the latter is one reason why the divorce rates are so high. In fact, approximately 40 to 50 percent of American couples end up divorcing at some point in their marriages.
While many damaged relationships and marriages can be saved with a change in communication, sometimes the best way to ensure a lasting relationship is to start off on the right foot.
However, women often find that communicating with the man they are interested in is more difficult than imaginable considering males are often taught to communicate and express emotions differently than females.
Being shy on top of lacking communication skills makes talking to males even harder, but taking the following tips can help you out:
1. Eliminate distractions
While distractions are typically calming for a shy person when talking to their male love interest, eliminating the distractions in the room when talking face-to-face makes things easier for your dream man to focus on the conversation. Visual distractions are particularly important to eliminate.
Some may argue that humans can’t truly multitask at all, but research found that men cannot multitask the way women do.
In fact, many men actually prefer to focus on one thing at a time. That said, talking to a man while he’s watching television or as you’re scrolling through your phone in front of him while mid-conversation is no-gos.
2. Talk about yourself without stealing the limelight
In many male-female relationships, the female often does most of the talking, but this isn’t always the case. And just because a woman is more communicative doesn’t mean the man doesn’t have things he wants to say as well.
When a person is only allowed to listen and not speak, their interest in the conversation greatly diminishes.
While your man may be attracted by a woman who is confident and always has things to say, the conversation might go stale if you’re the only one talking.
Keep humble during the conversation; allow the man to get his thoughts in and speak about himself. When he says something about himself, attempt not to turn the conversation back onto yourself.
3. Ask questions
To keep an active conversation going and ensure both you and your guy have turns talking, asking questions is important.
Of course, asking questions is also a great way to get better acquainted with someone and learn new things about them.
But in any conversation with anyone, it’s never a good thing to ask too many questions as this can come off like an interview…